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Becoming a Winner- The Next Steps
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As the mental work acts from within, controlling your appearance acts from without. Both aspects complement each other, and both are required to accomplish your goal in becoming a winner.
Physiological Work
4. Look Like a Winner
Very few winners walk among us with T-shirts and flip-flops. When you're going out to a casino, a party, a bar, you name it, keep it handsome and smart. Keep tabs on fashion and don't be too stingy on your shipping. Don't be too humble, because you've got only one chance to make a first impression. And do yourself a huge favor and get at least one custom tailored suit made just for you, they are so much better then the ones you pick off a hanger. Buy good shoes. Women look at shoes, in case you haven't heard that yet. Shave, get a decent haircut, and ware your best fragrance. (But only a little, you don't want to scare people off).
You'll see that you'll grow into your outfit, and it will change your posture, body language, and the way other people treat you. They say you don't judge a book by its cover, but a nice cover makes you take it off the shelf and pick inside, doesn't it?
5. Smile
Wearing a smile helps us relax and focus. Smiling in time of pressure helps you achieve better results at what you're doing. I'm not talking about a tooth-paste-commercial here - think Sean Connery rather than Julia Roberts. The best poker players, even after they lost a game, smile as they shake hands with the opponent. A smile is also evolutions way of letting us show our teeth, saying "this dog can bite, so don't mess with me, you win this round, I'll win the battle."
6. Exercise
That's right, I'm talking about sports. I know everyone tells you to do it, but the plain fact is that a winner can't be limp. You can be stout or heavy, but you have to be firm and upright. Physical exercises (and martial arts in particular) improves your posture, confidence, and self esteem. As soon as your body feels stronger your mind will feel the same. People who don't work out usually walk hunched with their head bowed down, while people who do walk erect. The first communicate a subliminal message of yielding, while the other look like the international symbol of confidence and defiance.
A Winner has pride that shows by the way you Keep your chin up no matter who's trying to bend you over. To achieve this body language you must exercise regularly. Start out with 15 minutes a day – some push ups and sit ups – and add more routines gradually. If you need, consult a doctor for special exercises.
Congratulations on your choice to become a winner in this world. I hope you start this process now without giving in to the difficulties you'll face or fearing the responses from your environment. Those who feel comfortable with your passive presence will be intimidated by the change, by real friends will support you, and you will make many new ones. Being a winner is in your reach. You can do this. You just need the discipline. It's a struggle but it is worth it –Do not live your life with your head bowed down!
The change can take effect within as little as three months if you keep with the program and in time all the work will become your second nature.
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